MUST SEE: Artist Debra Cartwright’s Beautiful Watercolors Shed An Ethereal Light on Black Women

I have to say: I. LOVE. THIS. SO. MUCH! Artist Debra Cartwright has answered prayers I didn’t even know I had!


There certainly is nothing wrong with the images of strong, Black women, but aren’t there a few things missing?

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The Problems With Catcalling

WOMEN ARE NOT ALL CRAZY! At least not about this. Here’s the bottom line in my opinion: people are able to decipher what others usually mean behind their words. Saying a woman is beautiful is fine IF that sentiment is sincere and not meant to be crude or lascivious. Unfortunately, a lot of it is not sincere. You can tell by the way a person says hello or looks at you when he says you’re beautiful what he means. When you look at a stranger’s face and he’s licking his lips and undressing you with his eyes, that is uncomfortable and threatening. Continue reading

The Talk

(photo cred: Graham Crumb)

(photo cred: Graham Crumb)

I see a boy, Alexander Cameron, and his little sister, Savannah, Aria, Chloe, or Fiona (her mother hasn’t decided her name yet). They are beautiful, inquisitive, smart, and good. They are my future son and daughter. I am not expecting them anytime soon, but for as long as I can remember, I’ve dreamed about them; prayed over them. I have also thought long and hard about what I will teach them.

While they are all incredibly important, I know that some of these lessons will involve conversations that will be painfully awkward, not only for my future children, but for me as well. This particular lesson may be one of the most uncomfortable…and one of the most important: it’s about sex. Continue reading

Is Change Really Possible?


It seems we are at war in this country, and throughout the world, but that’s always the case at any given point in human history, isn’t it? It’s all too much, but it will never be enough if we keep going down the same path. Human beings are proving to go more and more insane as time moves ever forward. We continue to do more of the same and expect different results. It is not only about race, it is about humanity and life and our growing disregard for these that are supposed to be the most precious.

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A NO BRAINER! Proposed Body Cameras for NYPD

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I’ve heard this proposal a few times before but YES! This is a no brainer! As much money as we throw away in this country, this would probably be an investment. WE could all put down our camera phones and the police dept. could stop acting like victims about civilians taping what they do. These cameras should stay on every mili-second the officer is on duty. IF they turn off for any reason, that should be recorded by a trusted outside party and the officer should be suspended pending investigation. This could be a small step in the direction of helping the public trust the police again and allowing officers to successfully PROTECT & SERVE.

What do you guys think???


Dream Big,

Trixie B.

This is NOT Okay

Parents, Please Do Better.  

A comical look at the unfortunate, contemptuous manner in which I see way too many Black mothers speak to/treat their children. No where in here is there any semblance of love, respect, kindness, encouragement, or joy. While this is obviously an exaggeration, it sadly isn’t a far enough leap of creative license. This points to a major problem in our community in my opinion. I don’t have children, but I know that speaking to them this way and treating them with constant annoyance and anger is not good for them or for our larger society. 





“I had a child when I was sixteen. I got kicked out of high school because of all the absences. My family and community pretty much wrote me off. But right away I got a job at a sporting goods store. Soon I was able to get a job as a receptionist at a tax company, and they gave me enough responsibilities that I learned how to do taxes. Eventually I learned enough to become an associate. Then I got offered a job at a smaller company, and even though it was a pay cut, they offered me responsibility over all the books— accounts payable, accounts receivable, everything. It was less money but I wanted that experience so I took the risk. And I’m so glad I did, because six months later, the controller of that company left and I was given that position. They told me they couldn’t officially call me the controller because I didn’t have a college degree. So I finished my degree 5 months ago— just to make it official! So after having a child at sixteen, I made it all the way to controller of a company, without even having a college degree. Can you believe that? Honestly, I’ve been waiting to tell that story so long that I told it to a customer service representative on the phone last week. She was nice about it and pretended to care.”