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What You’re NOT GONNA DO!

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So I just saw a picture of Khloe Kardashian on Facebook wearing a silky, blonde set of bantu knots. Khloe captioned the pic on her Instagram “Bantu Babe”. Of course, Black Twitter WENT OFF!!!! I must be honest, though, I’m happy she at least knows the name of the style.

Personally, I don’t really care about all of Black Twitter’s tweets, and I’m sure some of “White” Twitter’s tweets in defense of Khloe K. It’s a free country, say what you want. Post whatever pictures you want. I’m sure I can guess with relative accuracy what people said because this situation isn’t anything new.

But this is what pisses me off: I don’t care if Khloe or Kim or anyone else wants to rock Bantu Knots or cornrows or whatever else. Go ahead and wear them. Honestly, Khloe looks gorgeous in the snap, but allow me to tell “you”  (people who will see this picture and emulate it thinking that Khloe is starting some new fashion trend or movement) what you are NOT going to do! YOU ARE NOT going to act like you came up with it. YOU ARE NOT going to assert that you look anymore fabulous than the brown beauties who have been rocking these styles FOREVER! YOU ARE NOT going to try to pass this off as some new fashion that you created or discovered, but when I do it, it’s tacky or ghetto or “excessively black” in a way that turns black into something to fear or snuff out. YOU ARE NOT going to let this end up on the runways and in the magazines without letting the world know exactly from where you drew your inspiration.YOU ARE NOT going to pretend that our magic does not exist.YOU ARE NOT going to pretend that our magic doesn’t enrich your life.

What you WILL DO is APPRECIATE the culture! Learn about it, and don’t stand in the way of that beautiful knowledge reaching the masses. What you WILL DO is be fascinated; be inspired; be in awe. I mean, at this point in humanity, those are all perks of living in a world with so many incredible cultures that we have access to. Our ability to shrink this great world and take in its vast, enchanting wonders is amazing! This is the reason we say “What a time to be alive!” But while you’re living, don’t starve those who feed you. Don’t starve us of credit, recognition, or true appreciation. And don’t poison us by simultaneously perpetuating the idea that we’re not quite living up to some standard of beautiful, while ” trying us on like costumes”, as Jesse Williams said; costumes you want to keep and wear whenever you feel like it. That is not what cultures other than your own are. They are people, rituals, histories, struggles, triumphs, LOVE!

And this is not just to White people. We’re all probably appropriating somebody’s heritage as we speak. And sure, it can influence fashion and help build other cultures altogether, but let’s not stop at fascination and costuming, for those are the extent of appropriation. Let go further, into appreciation. Let’s say that WHAT WE WILL DO is at least try to learn about the bountiful cultures surrounding us. Let’s say that WHAT WE WILL DO is take proper advantage of the world and the times we’re living in, bringing people together.



Trixie B.


MUST SEE: Artist Debra Cartwright’s Beautiful Watercolors Shed An Ethereal Light on Black Women

I have to say: I. LOVE. THIS. SO. MUCH! Artist Debra Cartwright has answered prayers I didn’t even know I had!


There certainly is nothing wrong with the images of strong, Black women, but aren’t there a few things missing?

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“I had a child when I was sixteen. I got kicked out of high school because of all the absences. My family and community pretty much wrote me off. But right away I got a job at a sporting goods store. Soon I was able to get a job as a receptionist at a tax company, and they gave me enough responsibilities that I learned how to do taxes. Eventually I learned enough to become an associate. Then I got offered a job at a smaller company, and even though it was a pay cut, they offered me responsibility over all the books— accounts payable, accounts receivable, everything. It was less money but I wanted that experience so I took the risk. And I’m so glad I did, because six months later, the controller of that company left and I was given that position. They told me they couldn’t officially call me the controller because I didn’t have a college degree. So I finished my degree 5 months ago— just to make it official! So after having a child at sixteen, I made it all the way to controller of a company, without even having a college degree. Can you believe that? Honestly, I’ve been waiting to tell that story so long that I told it to a customer service representative on the phone last week. She was nice about it and pretended to care.”

What Would You Do With $1,000 Everyday For Life???

Just saw an ad for some other crazy NY Lottery *opportunity* and it got me thinking: On the off chance that I were to win $1,000 everyday for the rest of my life, what would I do with that money? 

So here is my current “I’M RICH, B*TCH” top 10:

1. Pay off all student and credit card debt.

2. Pay off any debt my mother may have.

3. Buy/build my mother a beautiful house surrounded by equally beautiful land.

4. Get a gorgeous place for myself.

5. Maybe get another degree???

6. Donate a very large sum to Penn State’s THON.

7. Start a foundation that supports and funds education for kids in urban schools in NYC.

8. Take a vacation for about 2 weeks and take all of my favorite people with me.

9. Acquire some awesome stuff that I probably don’t need.

10. Save a lot. Make a couple of savings accounts for my future children.

Those are just a few of my ideas. What would you do if you got $1,000 everyday for the rest of your life?

Dream Big,

Trixie B.

You Can’t Be F*cking Serious!!!! NUTELLA ICE CREAM


Photos Courtesy: Carvel

Soooo apparently Nutella Ice Cream is about to be a real thing! The heavens have opened up and bestowed upon us hazelnutty, chocolately, ice creamy amazingness. I can hardly contain my absolute delight and excitement!!!!!!!!

Nutella ice cream will be available in a four varieties, courtesy of the ever-wonderful Carvel. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. First Fudgie the Whale and now this?!?! We mere mortals are certainly not worthy. I believe I speak for all of us when I say we are absolutely humbled and euphorically flabbergasted by this blessing.

I’m personally salivating over the “Hand-scooped chocolate ice cream layered with Nutella hazelnut spread and Carvel Crunchies, then topped with Nutella.”


-Trixie B.